- Courtship and Marriage
Here are some words on courtship and marriage.
When a "loon" (boy) and a "quine" (girl) "get the smit" (fall in love) or get "daft aboot" (become extremely fond of one another) then they are likely to start "coortin" or "goin oot thegither" or "winchin" (courting). Of course the boy may have to "come aifter" the girl to woo her and may "creep-at-even" (be out late courting). It is to be hoped that she does not "tak up wi the crookit stick" (accept an inferior suitor) and that she does not "gie him the fling" (jilt him). She may, of course, be trying to avoid "wearing the green garter" (an older sister whose younger sibbling gets married first) but these days may become a "bidie-in" (someone who lives with another person of the opposite sex without marriage).
However, if the couple decide to have a "tryst" (become engaged) and then "have a waddin" (get married) they will be "cried" - no, not tearful but have the marriage banns proclaimed in church. Certainly in the past, much was made of the "show of presents" - the traditional display of wedding presents held in the bride's home before the marriage. Often, a good "tocher" or dowry was paid by the father of the bride. After the ceremony, it was traditional for the groom to throw some coins to the waiting children outside the church. This had various names including "bowl money", "Logan", "scatter" and "scour-oot". Pieces of the wedding cake were sent to each of the guests after the wedding and since the recipients placed this under their pillows for luck, it was called "dreamers bread".
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